A Day in the Life

Wow...time gets away from me. It has been too long since I last posted. Here is just a glimps into where I've been.

The world of an elder law attorney revolves around the end of the month. It never fails the end of the month is the most busy time or at least it is usually that way. It can be all consuming and I find myself being consumed by the work to be done. I find that building a wall between myself and my clients to be almost impossible. (I could never be a doctor or nurse). In dealing with a client, usually the child or grandchild of an individual, who is recognizing or dealing with a true crisis in their family I find myself feeling their pain, worry and concern. I think about how I would feel in their situation.

BUT...

I find myself working more and spending less and less time at home. Or if I am at home I am taking phone calls, replying to emails or working on documents. I was supposed to be part-time, I was supposed to have my focus on my family. I guess things never turn out the way the were supposed to.

I really wish I could spend my day with this cuteness.

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Does Maternity Leave Harm Our Careers?

This is an article from the ABA Journal Weekly Newsletter:

Jack Welch: Women Take Time Off for Kids at Their Peril
Posted Jul 16, 2009,
By Debra Cassens Weiss
Former General Electric CEO
Jack Welch thinks women who take time off for family are making a risky career move. Speaking to Human Resource Management at its annual conference on June 28, Welch said women who take time off for family could be passed over for
promotions if they are “not there in the clutch,” the Wall Street Journal (sub. req.) reports.

“There's no such thing as work-life balance," Welch said. "There are work-life choices, and you make them, and they have consequences." Welch said women who take time off can still "have a nice career," but their chances of reaching the top are smaller, according to the Wall Street Journal account. "We'd love to have more women moving up faster," he said. "But they've got to make the tough choices and know the consequences of each one."

The Am Law Daily noted the story and interviewed a
lawyer with a different viewpoint. Chantal Kordula, a partner at Cleary Gottlieb Steen & Hamilton, told the publication that she took off five months after the birth of each of her three children, and still made partner, albeit in a longer time frame.
She went back to a full schedule when she returned to
work, but sometimes fits in afternoon parenting duties, according to the Am Law Daily. "You just need to do what works for you and let the chips fall where they may," she told the publication.

Personally I believe this country doesn't get how important developing and nurturing a mother/child bond is. However, I totally understand that I have choices to make, and those choices have consequences. I am not so naive to believe that I truly can have it all and someone not pay the price for my choices (namely that would be my daughter paying that price). I am just so very grateful that I have those choices, when not too long ago my path in life would have been chosen for me. For me, I "chose" to take a little time off (I use the word "chose" loosely as I was on bedrest for 4.5 months and of that could not work at all for 1 of those months), I also took 10 weeks off after Alyanna's birth. I am now working a modified schedule and have taken a reduction in salary. This allows me to continue to pursue my career and give me the ability to be fully present in my daughters life. The consequences for me (the reduction in salary and increased time to make partner) are worth it, because I am giving Alyanna the best start I can and still maintaining my own aspirations.

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